Keeping satisfying long term relationships - intimate isn't easy

If you've ever been in a long term relationship or are in one now you know how hard it can be to keep things interesting in the bedroom or for that matter where ever you like to do it! Relationships are confusing. There is this weird mix of the desire for comfort, safety, love, lust, excitement, mystery, closeness, passion, comfy slippers and sexy cloths.  How does it all work together? Doesn't it seem sometimes that it's impossible to have one set of needs {love, safety, comfy slippers} and the other {passion, romance, excitement} all at the same time!!

Well, I'll start by saying YOU ARE NOT ALONE in how you feel, nor are you crazy to want or need both.  I came across this amazing TED lecture* a while back and thought it was spot on in pointing out the conflicts we all have and WHY we have them. It's really worth watching, sharing, thinking about.

 I think that keeping relationships alive, fresh, interesting is WORK! I think we can't take our amazing partners for granted. I think that if every now and then we can come up with some way to show them we are thinking about the relationship, their needs not to mention our needs then we are a step closer to a happy, healthy and sexy union.  BOUDOIR, I believe, is one way to not only have a blast, feel good about yourself but also give a gift to your lover, partner, husband that says - "I care about our intimate life together, I care that things don't go stale, I love my body, I love you loving my body so here something I did for US! Enjoy!!"

http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship

* if you aren't familiar with TED Lectures you should check them out. They are great resource for anything from intimacy to inspiration