"This isn't working for me"... but how do you know unless you try?

When doing Tree Pose in yoga you are supposed to advance your movement by raising your eyes to the ceiling and then bringing your arms up above your head. Whenever I tried this, I would inevitably lose my balance and fall out of the posture. So, I decided long ago that ‘this isn’t working for me’. I found a work around and just reversed the order, raising my arms first and then shifting my gaze. Still, there was always a nagging feeling inside me that I was modifying something I really shouldn’t. From when I started hot yoga over 7 years ago, riddled with an arthritic back, to now I’ve managed to stop modifying many of the postures that ‘weren’t working for me’ back then.  After all, if I start modifying poses at this stage of my life, what will I have to give up when I’m 75?

Today, in class I thought to myself… how do I know lifting my gaze first will throw me off balance? It’s been years since I’ve tried.  So, I tried and guess what. I didn’t fall over. Granted I didn’t fully look to the heavens, but I did reverse my movements so that the arms followed the eyes and not the other way around. Yay me. 

What does this have to do with Boudoir? Good questions. I guess I started thinking, while staring up at the ceiling, how we sometimes just decide something ‘isn’t working for us’ or ‘isn’t really our thing’ based on one uncomfortable experience or fear of the unknown.  

 How do we know if something will work for us if we don’t try it? 

Now let’s add sex and sexuality into the mix.  Personally, I don’t believe you can have a rewarding sexual relationship with someone else until you can have one with yourself. It’s not until you feel positive and comfortable with your own sexuality that you can share it with others.  But most of us shy away from it when it comes to cultivating our own sense of sexuality.

“Boudoir” we say to ourselves or our friends at girls-night-out “ohhh, that doesn’t work for me. Besides, my husband wouldn’t really be into that.”  Oh my, how many times have I hear that?

I will tell you I have never met a guy that has told me (when asked) that he doesn’t like the idea of Boudoir. But back to the point.

I can’t think of a better way to get back in touch with your sexual side then by having a boudoir experience. How do you know it doesn’t work for you when you’ve never tried it?  Every woman that has been through my studio leaves telling me ‘I was so nervous when I booked you. I had no idea what to expect but that was amazing. I feel so empowered, so sexy, so confident.  I had no idea I’d feel this way. Thank you!”. 

I looked up at the ceiling today and didn’t fall over, I felt proud that I was willing to reconsider what does and doesn’t work for me and was able to take control of my body and my goals and advance just a little further towards that perfect yoga experience. 

I can’t encourage you all enough to think about your life, your relationships, your sexuality… it is never too late to step onto the mat and give something a try. 

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.